Karen K.C. Gibson, founder of “Letting Go with Aloha,” is a parent coach and author of One Hundred Parenting Tips Inspired by the Pandemic, Mama’s Gotta Let Go, and 365 Parenting Affirmations and Quotes. She also runs Brain Builders, a tutoring service since 1999, and co-authored The Power to Rise Above. Learn more at karenthebrainbuilder.com and lettinggowithaloha.com. “reset” button and have a fresh start. Some children may need more than ten fresh starts throughout their day. Keep in mind that bratty behavior is a sign that your child is having difficulty processing their emotions. The next time your child makes you want to scream, take five deep breaths, and try one of these “banishing bratty behavior” techniques. Tantrums are part of growing up, but they don’t have to destroy your day or send you into an adult tantrum! tion. Develop a thicker skin so instead of feeling disrespected, you know it’s your child’s frustration triggering their tantrum. Separate the child from the behavior. Address the specific action instead of labeling a child. For example, say, “That was a rude way to ask,” not “You are a rude child”. Listen actively. If a child feels unheard, acting out may occur. Give complete, nonjudgmental attention when they’re sharing their frustrations to build trust and reduce the need for disrespect. Create a Brat Busting Box. Make it a priority to carry these items to calm meltdowns and redirect bratty behavior. 1) Visual Cue Cards. Simple cards with images or words like “Quiet Voice,” “Take a Breath,” “Listen to Music,” etc. 2) Mini Emotion Wheel. Helps kids identify and name their feelings. As they name their feelings, they can deep breathe, blow bubbles, or use an essential calming oil. 3) Pause & Reset” Button, a toy or printable. A fun prop to physically press the 138 HAWAII PARENT November/December 2025 When kids push back, it’s a chance to teach respect.
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