It’s Party Time on Page 38. JULY/AUGUST 2025 Contents July/August 2025 HAWAII PARENT 3 8 Island Events & Family Fun 38 It's Party Time! From choosing the right date and place to sending invites and planning activities, this article covers the essentials of a fun, hassle-free celebration. 62 Raising a Strong-Willed Child Learn what defines a strong-willed child and why their intensity can be a hidden strength. 82 Love is in the Air Zookeepers are ramping up monitoring and care as they watch for signs of a possible pregnancy in giraffes Neelix and Sandi. 92 From Model Airplanes to Hip-Hop The YMCA, a community pillar, offers programs like group exercise, summer camps, after-school care, swimming, and leadership development for all ages. 102 Children Theatres An overview of the thriving children’s theatre scene on Oʻahu and its cultural importance. 122 Navigating Tooth Loss During School Understand the first signs of a loose tooth and how to prepare your child for what’s to come by creating fun traditions around tooth loss. 130 Let It Go Seven Things to Stop Worrying About Letting go of seven common parenting worries can help reduce stress and allow parents to focus on what truly matters for their family’s well-being. 152 Fun, Easy Packed Lunches This article shares simple, creative ideas for packing tasty, nutritious lunches that kids and adults will look forward to eating every day.
July/August 2025 HAWAII PARENT 5 Contents JULY/AUGUST 2025 Publisher: Charles Harrington • Assistant Publisher: Janis Harrington Production Director: Joel Lovingfoss • Managing Editor: Hailey Zalopany • Editor: Makayla Dilliner Contributing Writers: Karen Gibson, Dr. Elsa Lee, Sara Tiller, Jen Townsend, Kirsten Cobabe, Stephanie Lopes, Sarah Lyons, Michael Orozco Illustrations: Dennis Fujitake • Cover: Douglas Peebles Next Issue: Sep/Oct: Focus on Learning/Enrichment • Advertising Space Deadline: July 15th Phone: 808-728-3341 • Address: 350 Ward Ave, Suite 106-304, Honolulu, HI 96814 publisher@hawaiiparent.media • www.HawaiiParentMedia.com Page 114 Page 144 Page 72 Page 138 72 Discipline That Grows with Your Child What discipline really means. Redefining discipline as teaching, not punishment, and why that matters at every age. 114 Teen Eye Rolls: Drama or Development? This article explores whether teen eye rolling is just typical adolescent drama or a natural part of emotional and social development during the teenage years. 138 Steaming Ahead for Girls Sacred Hearts Academy’s STEAM programs empower young women by blending science, technology, engineering, arts, and math to build confidence, creativity, and skills needed for future success. 144 Waikiki Staycation Contest Enter to win a relaxing 2-night staycation at La Croix in Waikiki—and read our top tips on how to have the perfect Waikiki staycation!
2025 MCBH KANEOHE BAY AIR SHOW August 9 & 10 The skies over Kaneohe Bay will come alive August 9th and 10th, as Marine Corps Base Hawaii (MCBH) hosts the highly anticipated Kaneohe Bay Air Show. This free, family-friendly event offers a rare opportunity to witness world-class aerial performances and connect with the men and women who serve our nation. The event also honors the Marine Corps’ 250th birthday, reflecting on its rich history and enduring commitment to service. The famous Blue Angels will dazzle with their tight, high-speed formations, while the U.S. Air Force F-22 Raptors and KC-135 tankers show off their impressive moves. But the fun doesn’t stop in the sky! On the ground, kids can explore interactive STEM exhibits powered by Hawaiian Electric, get up close to cool vintage and modern aircraft, and enjoy a lively car show. With plenty of space to roam and food vendors to satisfy every appetite, the air show offers a full day of entertainment for the whole family. Whether your little ones are future pilots or just love a good adventure, the Kaneohe Bay Air Show promises an inspiring and fun weekend for all ages. Mark your calendars and prepare for an unforgettable weekend. 8 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 The Blue Angels are the U.S. Navy’s flight demonstration team, known for flying F/A-18 Super Hornets in tight formations to showcase pilot skill and precision.
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10 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 JULY SHARING THE BUTTERFLY EXPERIENCE July 2 to Aug. 3 Keep an eye out for this upcoming event! Sharing The Butterfly Experience returns to Pearlridge Center, offering an immersive, interactive exhibit for visitors of all ages. From July 2 to August 3, guests can explore the delicate lifecycle of butterflies, feed them, and enjoy the beauty of these graceful creatures up close. Located in Mauka Center Court, this family-friendly event is a unique and educational summer activity. On July 27 from 11am to 4pm, Dr. Will Haines will make an appearance with the elusive Kamehameha butterfly for viewers to see! Don’t miss this chance to connect with nature and experience the wonder of butterflies. Learn more at Pearlridgeonline.com. SUNFLOWERS IN WAIMANALO May to July Stroll through vibrant sunflower fields, enjoy the fresh air, and snap photos at our designated photo op spots. Arrive between 9am and 3pm. Stop by our country market and grub stand for fresh-picked Dakota Super Sweet Corn, Nalo Made freshsqueezed lemonade, local honey, handmade farm goods, cornbread, and more! Feel free to explore the paths and open areas at your own pace. Perfect for families, friends, and nature lovers. Kamaʻāina and military discounts available with valid ID, and children under 2 get in free. Dates open depend on the bloom, find more information at www.waimanalocountryfarms.com. Explore and interact with monarch butterflies at the month-long 'Sharing the Butterfly Experience' event. MOOLELO STUDIOS’ SUMMER SHOW July 10, 11, 12, & 13 Disney’s Dare to Dream Jr. is a lively musical about new trainees at a fictional Disney Imagineering Studio who work together to discover the power of dreaming big. Featuring songs from The Princess and the Frog, Coco, Encanto, and Frozen II, this inspiring show is perfect for Disney fans of all ages. Presented by Mo‘olelo Studios at Sacred Hearts Academy’s Auditorium, it showcases young local performers in a celebration of imagination and creativity. This annual event at Waimanalo Country Farms features blooming sunflowers and draws visitors islandwide.
12 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 READ TO ME AT RAISING CANES July 12, 19, & 26 This July, Raising Cane’s and Read To Me International are hosting free, interactive read-aloud events for keiki and their families at select Oahu locations. Designed to spark a love for reading, these events will take place from 10:00am to 12:00pm on July 12 at the Kapolei Raising Cane’s, July 19 at the Pearl City location, and July 26 at the Hawaii Kai restaurant. Each session features 3 to 4 book readings, bookmark crafting, singing, and engaging literacy activities led by Read To Me International, a local nonprofit dedicated to promoting family reading. As an added bonus, children who read seven books can redeem a completed bookmark at any Hawaii Raising Cane’s for a free Kids Combo meal. Now in its fourth year, this community partnership continues to offer fun and meaningful literacy experiences. All events are free and open to the public, but seating is limited. For more information, visit www.readtomeintl.org. Kids and families gather at Raising Cane’s Read To Me event to celebrate the power of reading together.
14 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 KIDS DANCE PARTY HAWAII DANCE BOMB Every Saturday of July Open every Saturday of July, join Hawaii Dance Bomb for a high-energy Kids Dance Party in Kaimuki! Designed for children ages 5–9, this fun-filled evening runs from 5:00pm to 8:00pm and includes dancing, a silent disco, karaoke, games, arts and crafts, and even a special performance. Parents can enjoy a night off while the kids have a blast in a safe, creative environment. The event takes place at 1059 12th Ave, Unit D, Kaimuki, HI, and costs $60 per child or $100 for two siblings. Space is limited, so reserve your spot at hawaiidancebomb.com or call (808) 382-7467 for more details. No dance experience is needed—just bring your energy and enthusiasm! It’s the perfect way for kids to make new friends and create summer memories they’ll never forget. KAHALA JIU-JITSU ONE WEEK PROGRAM July 14 to 18 Kahala Jiu-Jitsu invites keiki to join their fun and active Summer Camp from July 14 to 18 in Kaimuki. Held daily from 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 p.m., this week-long program is perfect for beginners and returning students alike. Kids will learn the fundamentals of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu while building confidence, improving focus, and staying active. With an emphasis on teamwork, discipline, and respect, the camp blends structured learning with playful movement. Instructors lead warm-ups, technique drills, partner exercises, and games to keep kids engaged. Wear comfortable athletic clothing—equipment is provided. Spaces are limited, so early registration is encouraged. For details and to sign up, visit kahalajiujitsu.com.
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16 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 food, refreshing drinks, and local vendors offering clothing, jewelry, and handmade crafts. Hosted with Honolulu Juice Factory, this free event also supports Wounded Warrior Ohana and local veterans. Come for the flavors, stay for the shopping, and soak in the community vibe. More information at millwoodohanaproductions.com. SPONGEBOB MUSICAL DIAMOND HEAD THEATRE July 18 to Aug. 3 Dive into an unforgettable underwater adventure with The SpongeBob Musical at Diamond Head Theatre! Experience a colorful spectacle filled with beloved characters, heartwarming optimism, and songs by legendary artists like Aerosmith, Sara Bareilles, and David Bowie. When Bikini Bottom faces an impending volcanic eruption, it’s up to SpongeBob and his friends to unite and save their home. This lively, family-friendly show promises laughter, music, and a powerful message about hope and courage. The musical will be held late July to early August, but tickets go fast! Don’t miss your chance to ride the wave of this magical musical! Please see diamondheadtheatre.com. Soak up the sun, shop local, and support a great cause at Summer by the Ocean Fest—a free, fun-filled day of food, art, and aloha on July 19! SUMMER BY THE OCEAN FEST July 19 Celebrate summer on Oahu with a vibrant, oceanfront festival showcasing the island’s creative spirit! Enjoy delicious
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18 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 ST. ANDREWS ADVENTURE CAMP July 21 to Aug. 8 St. Andrew’s Schools Extended Learning offers a variety of classes and seasonal programs to keep students active and engaged after school and during breaks. The Summer Adventures Camp, open to both boys and girls, features agespecific programs for grades K-8. Campers enjoy themed weeks and interactive activities, including half-day Rovers sessions for ages 3–4, creative Voyager programs for ages 5–10, and outdoor Adventure Programs for ages 10–16 with activities like kayaking and rock climbing. STEAM options like “AI for Kids” and “Minecraft Design,” along with visual arts, dance, and sports, round out the experience. The program runs Monday through Friday, with registration open until July 11, 2025. Learn more at summeratsaintandrews.org. FAMILY SUNDAY HONOLULU MUSEUM OF ART July 20 The Honolulu Museum of Art hosts Community Day four times a year on the third Sunday of the month, offering free admission to Hawai‘i residents. On top of the event, enjoy exploring the museum’s galleries and outdoor spaces. The event also features creative art activities in the Central Courtyard, providing a great opportunity for the community to engage with art and culture. This monthly event invites residents to connect with the museum and its artistic offerings. See more at honolulumuseum.org. KOKO MARINA MARKET July 26 Spice up your Saturday every 4th Saturday at Koko Marina Center in Hawaii Kai! From 10am to 3pm, explore unique treasures from local vendors, live music, and fun giveaways. It’s a great way to support small businesses while enjoying time with friends and ohana. Whether shopping, listening to music, or soaking in the vibe, there’s something for everyone. With free admission and lots of parking, it’s the perfect way to spend your Saturday! Smiles, science, and summer fun— St. Andrew’s Adventure Camp takes learning to new depths!
20 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 LILIUOKALANI KEIKI HULA CONTEST July 24 to 26 The Kalihi-Pālama Culture & Arts Society, Inc. will host the 2025 Queen Liliʻuokalani Keiki Hula Competition from July 24 to 26 at the Neal S. Blaisdell Center, celebrating its 50th Anniversary. Over 600 young dancers, ages 6 to 12, from 25 hula hālau across Hawaiʻi and Toronto, Canada, will compete in traditional and contemporary hula. The event includes solo and group competitions, showcasing both kahiko and ʻauana styles. The public can also enjoy the Keiki Hula Festival: Pop-Up Mākeke with local artists, royal memorabilia from the Hawaiʻi State Archives, live performances, and fashion from local designers. See more at keikihula.org. SUNSET MOVIE AT WAIKIKI Last Saturdays of May to Sept. Sunset on the Beach is a free, familyfriendly event held at Queen’s Surf Beach in Waikīkī, offering movies on a 30-foot screen, live Hawaiian-style entertainment, and delicious meals from local restaurants. Taking place on the last Saturdays of each month from May through September 2025, this community favorite is presented by Southwest Airlines. The evening begins around 4:30 p.m., with movies starting after sunset. Enjoy a relaxed night by the ocean with food, fun, and entertainment for all ages. Follow the Waikiki Improvement Association on Facebook for event updates and movie announcements. Information at waikikiimprovement.com.
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22 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 AUGUST HYOC FALL ENROLLMENT August 16 Calling all young singers! The Hawai‘i Youth Opera Chorus (HYOC) is opening enrollment for its 65th season, and now’s the perfect time to be part of something truly special. Enrollment is open for students from kindergarten through grade 12. Rehearsals are held on Saturday mornings at the University of Hawai‘i at Manoa, creating a fun, supportive space to learn, perform, and connect. With expert instruction, exciting performance opportunities, and a focus on Hawai‘i’s unique cultural heritage, HYOC isn’t just about singing, it’s about building confidence, discipline, and lifelong friendships. Don’t worry if you’re new to music! What matters most is your love of singing and willingness to try. Registration is now open, with spots filling fast (especially for younger ensembles). Visit hyoc2.weebly.com to learn more. MADE IN HAWAII FESTIVAL August 15 to 17 Presented by Hawaiian Airlines, the 31st Annual Made in Hawai‘i Festival is a must-attend event celebrating local culture, creativity, and entrepreneurship. Shop from over 400 Hawai‘i-based vendors offering everything from art and apparel to plants, jewelry, and food products. Enjoy live music from Nā Hōkū Hanohano Award-winning artists and cooking demos by renowned local chefs. Experience the best of Hawai‘i under one roof at the Hawaii Convention Center. More details at madeinhawaiifestival.com. SEPTEMBER WAIKIKI STREET JAM September 6 From 4 pm to 10 pm, Kalakaua Avenue will come alive with the vibrant sights and sounds of Oahu’s thriving local scene. This exciting festival features local vendors offering delicious food, refreshing drinks, unique clothing, accessories, and handA magical moment from HYOC’s past children’s opera—brimming with passion, talent, creativity, heart, imagination, joy, dedication and community.
24 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 made art. A portion of proceeds, in partnership with Honolulu Juice Factory, will benefit Make-A-Wish Hawaii, supporting keiki and their ʻohana across the island. Don’t miss this celebration of community, creativity, and giving back—experience the best of Oahu! Find more information at millwoodohanaproductions.com. INTERTRIBAL POW WOW September 21 Join the 2025 Honolulu Intertribal Pow Wow on Sunday, September 21, from 9 a.m. to sunset at Kapiʻolani Park in Honolulu. Hosted by Loa Simoes and the Oʻahu Intertribal Council, this vibrant cultural event invites everyone to celebrate Indigenous traditions through song, dance, artisan vendors, delicious food trucks, and educational workshops. It’s a familyfriendly day of aloha, unity, and community connection beneath the iconic Diamond Head. Bring your ʻohana and aloha to experience a meaningful celebration of living heritage. The intertribal pow wow celebrates the strength and spirit of Native traditions.
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26 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 ANNUAL FLORAL PARADE September 27 Join the vibrant celebration of Hawaiian culture at the Aloha Festivals’ 77th Annual Floral Parade on Saturday, September 27, from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m. The colorful procession winds from Ala Moana Park along Kalākaua Avenue to Kapi‘olani Park, featuring stunning floats adorned with fresh flowers, graceful pā‘ū riders on horseback, marching bands, hālau hula, and community leaders showcasing the aloha spirit. Spectators are encouraged to find a spot near the grandstands at Ala Moana Park, Prince Waikiki, Royal Hawaiian Center, or Moana Surfrider to enjoy the narrated parade experience. For those at home, the excitement will also be available through a live broadcast and livestream presented by KHON. Don’t miss this spectacular finale to the Aloha Festivals. ONGOING NATIVE HAWAIIAN PLANT TOUR WAIKIKI AQUARIUM Embark on a guided tour of the Aquarium’s native Hawaiian plant gardens with volunteer Alice Roberts. Discover 16 highlighted plants and their significance. Or obtain a comprehensive plant guide book from the Waikīkī Aquarium’s Volunteer Office or print a Hawaiian Plant Guide map from the Aquarium’s website for a self-guided tour. See www.waikikiaquarium.org for more information and events! GUIDED TOUR HO’OMALUHIA BOTANICAL GARDEN Located in Kaneohe, Oahu, Ho’omaluhia Botanical Garden spans 400 acres of lush rainforest which includes a 32-acre lake and multiple scenic walking trails. Join a 90-minute guided tour of the garden offered on Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays, and Saturdays at 10:30 a.m., rain or shine. Admission is $5 for visitors, $3 for locals, and $1 for children aged 6-12, with free entry for keiki 5 and under. For more information, site rules, and reservations, call (808) 768-7135. KAMAʻAINA SUNDAYS FAMILY HUI It takes a village to raise a child and a Hui to raise a parent. Family Hui works to support and encourage families to meet the challenges of raising children to ensure all children are thriving, healthy, and safe. Family Hui offers peer-led neighborhood groups and virtual “Parent Cafe” drop-in sessions that parents can join from home. These meetups provide a space for parents to connect, share experiences, and learn from each other. To find out more about Family Hui’s events and activities, visit www.familyhuihawaii.org. KEIKI CRAFT CLASSES BEN FRANKLIN CRAFTS Every Saturday, 10am-12pm Bring your keiki to Ben Franklin every Saturday for Keiki Saturday, happening from 10 a.m. to 12 p.m. This fun, hands-on event is perfect for all ages, where kids can create crafts to take home and cherish. Sign up in-store and let your child’s creativity shine! Events will be held at the Enchanted Lake, Market City, and Pearl City store locations. For more information, please visit www.benfranklinhawaii.com. Honoring the wahine paniolo — a proud tradition of strength and skill in Hawaiian ranching culture.
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28 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 Pearlridge Center-Wai Makai, with ample parking available. Come hungry, leave happy! For more information, visit www.farmloversmarkets.com/pearlridge. GYMNASTIC CLASS FUN NIGHTS HAWAII ACADEMY Need a night off? Leave your children with us for a much needed night off. Hawaii Academy opens its doors so keiki (and participants of all ages) can immerse into gymnastics or general fitness activities. Children, ages 6 and up, can revel in a safe and inspirational atmosphere at the Honolulu Gym from 6pm - 9pm every Friday night! Find more information about Hawaii Academy’s Fun Night and general information please see www.hawaiiacademy.com. DINOSAURS RETURN TO BISHOP MUSEUM 2025 to 2026 Journey beneath the waves and back in time at Bishop Museum’s newest exhibit, Expedition Dinosaur: Into the Deep. This expansive 7,000-square-foot experience highlights fascinating parallels between prehistoric marine ecosystems and the diverse aquatic habitats surrounding our islands today. The State of Hawai‘i Museum of Natural and Cultural History is excited to welcome back dinosaurs to Kaiwi‘ula in this immersive exhibit. For the first time on O‘ahu, guests can encounter oceanic and aquatic reptiles from the Jurassic period up close—alongside beloved favorites like the T-Rex and Stegosaurus. Designed by Stage 9 Exhibits, Expedition Dinosaur: Into the Deep features lifelike animatronic dinosaurs with realistic movement and sound, bringing these ancient creatures to life. This captivating exhibit offers a unique opportunity to explore the deep history of our planet’s oceans and the remarkable creatures that once inhabited them. For more information, visit BishopMuseum.org. PEARLRIDGE FARMERS MARKET Every Saturday, 8am to 12pm The Pearlridge Farmers Market features over 45 vendors offering locally grown fruits, vegetables, potted plants, delicious food, freshly made treats, keiki activities, face painting, live music, and much more. Located in the Sears parking lot at A vibrant mix of fresh fruits, veggies, and smiles at Pearlridge Farmers Market.
30 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 lasting memories. Guests can explore the palace while enjoying live entertainment, family-friendly activities, and tasty food from local eateries. Each event will be themed around a topic highlighting a different aspect of Hawaiian culture. Attendees are encouraged to bring their picnic blankets and chairs. For more information, please visit www.iolanipalace.org. STORYBOOK MAKEOVER STATION Pearlridge Center Step into a world of imagination and beautiful handcrafted surroundings at Storybook Station’s newest location now open at Pearlridge Center. Your little ones can transform into fairies, pirates, mermaids, dragons and more, by getting a detailed fantasy makeover performed by one of Storybook’s fantasy stylists. Storybook Station is Oahu’s trusted source for all your party entertainment needs. Go to www.storybookstationhawaii.com to learn more and book today. ‘IOLANI PALACE Experience the vibrant celebration of Hawaiian culture at Kama’aina Sunday, a free event held on the second Sunday of every month at Iolani Palace, where families and friends come together to create Families gather at ʻIolani Palace for Kamaʻāina Sunday—celebrating Hawaiian culture with music and food.
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and entertainment all year long. Whether you’re visiting once a month or every weekend, there’s a pass that fits your lifestyle. From the budget-friendly Honu Pass to the benefit-packed Manō Pass, each option offers unlimited admission, access to special events, and discounts on food, retail, and even animal encounters. For young explorers, the Keiki Pass and ‘Opihi Pass make it fun and affordable to spark curiosity early on. Visit sealifeparkhawaii.com to explore pass options and start your family’s adventure today! ‘IOLANI’S NEXT HEAD OF SCHOOL ‘Iolani School is excited to announce the appointment of Dr. Melinda Bihn as its next Head of School, effective in 2026. Dr. Bihn’s background in both international and independent schools, coupled with her multilingual abilities and expertise in educational leadership positions her to continue ‘Iolani’s legacy of excellence. Dr. Bihn holds a B.A. in English with a minor in 32 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 Create memories swimming and playing with dolphins at Sea Life Park. ANNOUNCEMENTS SEA LIFE PARK ANNUAL PASSES If you’re looking for unforgettable family adventures, Sea Life Park Hawai‘i is making it easier than ever to enjoy marine life magic all year long. With the launch of its new annual pass options, guests can experience the wonder of ocean education
French, a master’s in comparative literature, a master’s in the teaching and administration of English as a second language, and a doctorate in educational leadership. ‘Iolani School looks forward to the leadership and vision Dr. Bihn will bring to the community, ensuring a bright future for its students and programs. 34 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 Enjoy chef-curated meals and nonstop arcade fun—all in one visit with our Eat and Play Combo at D&B! DAVE & BUSTER’S’ NEW LOCATION After 15 years in Honolulu and a brief hiatus for relocation and renovations, Dave & Buster’s is back and better than ever! Now open at its brand-new Ala Moana Center Ewa Wing location, it offers the ultimate combo of food, fun, and sports with a full-service restaurant, lively sports bar, and upgraded arcade experience. Guests can enjoy delicious meals while watching the big game on a towering 40foot screen. The game floor features over 120 cutting-edge arcade and virtual reality games, including the immersive “Arena” that puts you right in the action. Perfect for family nights, birthdays, or team outings, the venue includes private social bays, a VIP room, and banquet facilities. With plenty of parking and easy access for all ages, visit the official Dave & Buster’s Honolulu site to plan your visit: www.daveandbusters.com/locations/ honolulu
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As parents, we want our kids to feel special on their birthdays. So it’s easy to get caught up in planning the perfect party. Before you know it, you’re worrying about one-of-a-kind cakes and Pinterest-perfect decorations. Will a simple bounce house be enough for the kids? If you find yourself treating birthday parties as a competitive sport, you’re not alone. Over–the–top kids parties are getting more popular. One survey party company found that one in seven parents spent more than $1,000 on their child’s birthday! Expensive parties and sky-high expectations aren’t a recipe for enjoyable party planning. Parents often find themselves by Sara Tiller 38 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025
worrying about the party instead of enjoying it. When you’re stressed out, it’s hard to enjoy your child’s big day. What’s worse, a parent’s stress can make the birthday less fun for your child. So cut down on the stress of party planning by putting yourself in your child’s shoes. What are the memorable events at their friends’ parties? What do they have the most fun doing? Pinterest-perfect decorations probably aren’t at the top of their list! Get your child involved in the planning to connect before the party. The things your child wants – and what they don’t care about – might surprise you. Once you know what you both care about, focus on those parts of the party. Focusing on the most enjoyable parts of a birthday is a great way to cut down on party planning stress. If you love baking, making and decorating your child’s cake might be a great idea. If not, buying a cake may be a better idea. Costco offers sheet cakes with a variety of popular decorations. Princesses, dinosaurs, and beach decorations are sure to be a hit with the kids. At the same time, cut down on the parts of party planning you dislike. If you hate cleaning, consider having the party away from the house. Many parks and beaches are free; you can reserve picnic tables at other sites for a small fee. If you’re short on time, many places on Oahu offer party packages for kids. The Children’s Discovery Center in Honolulu is a popular location that offers party packages. Their “Birthday Bash” package includes pizza, juice, crafts, and admission to the discovery center. The Honolulu Zoo and Waikiki Aquarium are also popular birthday party spots. You might look at other places that offer party packages, like the Wet‘n’Wild Water Park. There are many other ways that you can cut down on party planning stress. Here are more tips to help you focus on your kids and enjoy the party planning process. BABIES AND TODDLERS Most babies and toddlers won’t remember their birthday parties. But these first few birthdays can be a big deal for mom and dad. Get a friend to take pictures or videos at these parties. This way, you’ll be able to focus on your baby. Remember to think small and simple when you’re planning birthday parties for young kids. Separation anxiety kicks in around this age. Most one-year-olds want to stick close to mom and dad. Toddlers and preschoolers can also get overwhelmed easily. Small parties can help them feel comfortable. TIPS • Plan birthday parties for right after your child’s nap. This way your toddler will be refreshed and excited to celebrate. July/August 2025 HAWAII PARENT 39
Finding and sticking to a simple theme can help cut down on party planning stress. Good themes could be a favorite sport, animal, or color. These themes are broad enough that you’ll be able to find related decorations easily. They’ll also help to make the day memorable for your child. And because they’re classic, your child is likely to be interested in them for a while. TIPS • Decide on a reasonable number of guests. A good rule of thumb is your child’s age, plus one. • If your child has a close friend with a birthday around the same time, team up with his parents to have one big birthday party. • Think of party planning as a way to connect with your child. Find age-appropriate things you can do together, like dec- • Consider a drop in, open house style event. This allows other families with young kids to work around their schedules. It also helps keep your baby or toddler from getting overwhelmed. • Skip party favors. At this age, party favors tend to be a choking hazard. • Keep party food simple. Chicken nuggets, pizza fingers, and fruit are all great choices. • Choose cupcakes as an easy-to-serve alternative to cake. ELEMENTARY SCHOOL CHILDREN Once your child starts school, birthday parties can become more than you bargained for. In some places, it’s common to invite your child’s whole class. If you want a smaller party, consider handing out invites outside of school. You can also use evites, or simply text other parents, to make this easier. “Avoid competitive games, since young kids tend to feel bad if they don’t win.” Many places on Oahu offer party packages for kids. 40 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025
orating cupcakes or making goody bags. Including him in the party planning can also help you manage his expectations. • If the birthday boy has siblings who might get jealous, make sure that a close friend or your spouse is around to provide backup. They can keep an eye on the kids while you take care of the sibling. • Avoid competitive games, since young kids tend to feel bad if they don’t win. If you’re worried about bad sportsmanship, offer crafts as an alternative to games. OLDER CHILDREN As kids get older, it’s more common for parents to drop them off and pick them up after the party. Make the party more enjoyable to you by enlisting a friend to help you watch the kids. Make sure parents know when they should be back to pick up their kids. TIPS • Consider throwing birthday parties every few years, and alternating them with other fun events like sleepovers. • Request RSVPs and include a date that guests should reply by. That way, you won’t need to feel bad about following up when no one has replied. • Older kids often know what they want at their parties, and are old enough to help plan. Pick two or three things that you both enjoy, and focus on planning those. If you and your son love games, spend some quality time together picking out games to play. • If you’re worried that kids will get bored, have a few extra party games on hand. A scavenger hunt, balloon stomp, or photo booth with props from the dollar store are all fun and affordable ways to keep the kids entertained. • Plan the party for after lunch to avoid making lunch for all the guests. You can set up a table with self-serve snacks, juices, and water instead. Planning a party without a meal can also make the day easier on kids with allergies. “Finding and sticking to a simple theme can help cut down on stress.” July/August 2025 HAWAII PARENT 41
AIR PARK KARAOKE Air Park Karaoke Lounge, conveniently located near Ala Moana Mall in Honolulu, offers the ultimate private karaoke experience for birthdays, graduations, and group celebrations. With 11 stylish rooms that can accommodate anywhere from 2 to 25 guests per room—or up to 150 people for a full buyout—it’s perfect for parties both big and small. Guests can sing their hearts out in a private space while enjoying food and drinks. Planning a birthday? Book two hours and get the third hour free if the birthday falls within seven days of your visit! Air Park welcomes all ages every day (except after 9 PM on Fridays and Saturdays), making it a great option for both family-friendly fun and adult-only nights. Private party requests outside of regular business hours are also welcome. Book online at airparkkaraoke.com and get ready to celebrate in true karaoke style! 42 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 BAY VIEW MINI-PUTT Bay View Mini-Putt & Zipline is the perfect venue for all types of occasions and celebrations, including graduations, baby luaus, company retreats, birthday parties, fundraisers, retirement parties and more. Located in Kaneohe, they offer wholesome fun for everyone, for those who are young and those who are young at heart. Receive special discounted rates on mini golf and zipline when booking a party of 10 people or more! You are “good to go” with Bay View Mini Putt. They offer several large and private party areas with catering options available. For more information, go to bayviewminiputt.com.
44 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 BARBERS POINT BOWLING Looking for an exciting and affordable place for your next special event? Barbers Point Bowling Center is the place for you! For birthday parties and other celebrations, bowling parties are fun for all ages. Their hourly standard party rate includes unlimited bowling with additional party upgrades available, such as Glo Bowling and a private room for you and your guests to use. Food and beverages can also be purchased at their convenient snack bar, The Prop Stop. Just give them a call and reserve a date! For more information, visit their website at barberspointbowling.com. We have party rates available along with a private party room for you and your guests to use. Call Barbers Point Bowling Center at 808-673-2695 to reserve a date! FUN FACTORY Fun Factory’s family entertainment centers have been making fun for families throughout Hawaii and across the U.S. since 1977. They take great pride in creating an exciting environment where families and friends can share good times together. Whether it’s playing the latest and most popular video games, winning tickets on a myriad of prize redemption games, selecting a prize from the hundreds of items on display at the prize gallery or participating in their many promotional activities, guests of all ages can count on Fun Factory to provide the very best in fun. Visit funfactorygames.com for more information.
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GUNSTOCK RANCH Located on the North Shore, Gunstock Ranch is the perfect spot for family-friendly activities and beautiful venue spaces. They cater to all types of events, and they don’t limit the number of guests you can invite. You can even bring your own food! Their amenities are unique and exciting, CHUCK E. CHEESE Known for being the place “Where A Kid Can Be a Kid,” Chuck E. Cheese specializes in birthday parties where the guest of honor truly shines. Enjoy two hours of unlimited gameplay with every party package. Enhance your celebration with options like pizza and drinks, a festive table setup, and the signature Chuck E. Cheese birthday show featuring an appearance by Chuck E.! Families can choose the 46 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 Gunstock Ranch is the perfect spot for family-friendly activities. party package that best fits their style and budget. Chuck E. Cheese also offers toddler-friendly parties and flexible booking with no deposit required. Bring your own cake or order one at the venue. Parties are available at all three Hawaii locations. Ready to book? Call your nearest Chuck E. Cheese: Honolulu: (808) 851-7400, Pearl City: (808) 455-1448, or Kapolei: (808) 762-7414. including a petting zoo, pony rides, a playground, and a campfire pit. Additionally, Gunstock Ranch offers specialty packages such as group trail rides and off-road UTV tours. This is also a great field trip destination! To book a party and for more information, contact their event specialist at 808-341-3995 or visit gunstockranch.com.
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48 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 HAWAII ACADEMY Hawaii Academy offers dynamic and engaging birthday parties for children aged 5 and up, set in a safe and structured environment. With locations in Honolulu and Waipahu, each facility is equipped with state-of-the-art equipment, including trampolines, rod and spring floors, and advanced bungee systems—making it one of the most well-equipped facilities in the Pacific. Parties typically include 90 minutes of gym time, where guests can jump, swing, tumble, and climb under the guidance of highly qualified instructors. The remaining 30 minutes are reserved for eating and cake. You are welcome to bring your favorite foods and decorations; Hawaii Academy provides tables, chairs, and cleanup, allowing you to focus on enjoying the celebration. For more information or to make a reservation, please visit hawaiiacademy.com. Let Hawaii Academy make your child’s birthday a memorable and active celebration! HI CLIMB Climb, Celebrate, Repeat: Honolulu’s Most Epic Birthday Bash Awaits at HiClimb! Planning a birthday party that gets kids moving, laughing, and bonding? Say goodbye to bounce houses and hello to climbing! HiClimb is Honolulu’s premier indoor rock climbing gym, and the ultimate party destination where kids ages 5 and up can scale colorful walls, cheer each other on, and celebrate in style. No experience? No problem! Our friendly team will guide every step, making it a perfect fit for first-timers and adventurous newcomers alike. With party packages that include gear, private rooms, and professional support to keep the fun flowing, parents can relax while the adventure unfolds. Learn more and let the good times climb at hawaiiclimb.com/partyreservations or call at (808) 888-2999!
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50 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 HAWAII DANCE BOMB Looking for a unique and unforgettable birthday experience for your child? Hawaii Dance Bomb offers facilitated Silent Disco Parties tailored for kids aged 5 to 12, providing a fun-filled celebration that keeps the energy high and the noise low. You can choose to have staff help you set the party up, or you can run the party on your own with headphone delivery available anywhere on Oahu. Kids are sure to be engaged with up to 90 minutes of interactive games, an amazing DJ, dancing, disco and laser lights. Parents are free! Silent Disco Parties are wireless so they can be held inside or outside. For more information, visit hawaiidancebomb.com. See you on the dance floor!
July/August 2025 HAWAII PARENT 51 MAGICAL TOUCH HAWAII Create an unforgettable occasion by offering fun and creative additions to your next event with the help of Magical Touch. Face painting, glitter tattoos, balloon twisting, magicians, and more — there are attractions available that will appeal to everyone in your group. With a wide selection of quality party entertainment, Magical Touch offers activities for all kinds of events including birthday parties, baby showers, fundraisers, holiday parties, and more. Their talented team has entertained guests at venues ranging from the Polynesian Cultural Center to Tripler Army Medical Center. Established in 2014, they bring professional polish, creativity, and fun to every celebration. Services also include henna tattoos, caricature drawings, silent discos, and even lei-making workshops. Last-minute reservations are welcome! For more details, go to partyentertainment-hawaii.com.
KEIKI KINGDOM Keiki Kingdom is the biggest indoor playground in Hawaii, offering a multilevel play structure, separate area for younger children, party rooms, slides, climbing walls, ball pits, sand box and much more. It is fully air-conditioned and supervised by trained staff to keep your kids safe and happy. Keiki Kingdom’s main indoor playground is for children 13 years and younger, and toddlers have a special gated section with fun activities specifically designed for them. Reserve a party room or buy-out the entire facility to celebrate your child’s next birthday or other event! For more information, visit keikikingdom.com. PANIOLO PARTIES From pony rides and petting zoos, to costumed characters, party games and more, Paniolo Parties is a great option for your next event. They also offer carriage rides — perfect for cowboy or princessthemed bashes — magic shows, clowns, and face painting, creating a fun and memorable atmosphere that guests of all ages will enjoy. Coming from Los Angeles, where their sister company Fantastic Parties operates, Paniolo Parties can customize any event, from children’s birthday bashes and holiday parties to corporate events and more. Visit panioloparties.com for more information. 52 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 Keiki Kingdom is the biggest indoor playground in Hawaii.
OAHU PHOTO BOOTHS Ready for your close-up? Get ready for a night of fun with Oahu Photo Booths! Home to the “Party Cube” and “Modern Photo Booth,” jazz up your party with inflatables, masks, props and other favors to capture your amazing event! A “supersized” inflatable booth that creates bright colorful memories with an LED light background, Oahu Photo Booth is proud to offer the largest Party Cube in the business with the capacity of up to 40 people — and you can now add your own background! Looking to add the modern touch to your party? Their Modern Photo Booth gives you and your guests the ability to watch the fun as it happens right before the photo is snapped! For all booths, Oahu Photo Booth offers custom backgrounds! Every booth rental includes an on-site attendant to help ensure your experience goes off without a hitch. Visit www.oahuphotobooths.com for more information! 54 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 ROCK ‘N FUN This entertainment hotspot is perfect for kids, teens, and adults who want to celebrate in style. With a wide variety of arcade games, thrilling attractions, and delicious American food favorites from Johnny Rockets, Rock ‘N Fun makes every birthday unforgettable. Party packages are customizable and designed to fit different group sizes and celebration styles. Most include arcade game credits for each guest, tasty food options, and a reserved party space so your group has a place to relax and enjoy. Whether you’re hosting a small family celebration or a larger gathering of friends, Rock ‘N Fun will work with you to create a party that’s just right. There’s even a prize redemption center so guests can go home with fun souvenirs from their gameplay wins. Call (808) 670-2626 or visit rocknfunhi.com to book your party today. Let Rock ‘N Fun turn your next celebration into a high-scoring, memory-making experience!
SEA LIFE PARK HAWAII Looking for an unforgettable way to celebrate your child’s special day? Make a splash at Sea Life Park Hawaiʻi—where ocean views, marine animal encounters, and fun for all ages create the ultimate unique birthday experience. Choose from two party packages designed to make planning easy and the celebration memorable. The Honu Paʻina Package includes fullday park admission, a reserved party area under the shade of Beach Boy Lanai, a pizza lunch, Dippin’ Dots ice cream, drink pitchers, and a dolphin-shaped birthday cake. As a birthday bonus, the guest of honor receives a free Annual Pass (or retail gift option for current pass holders)! For even more excitement, upgrade to the Naiʻa Paʻina Package, which includes everything in the Honu Paʻina, plus a group souvenir photo and the Dolphin Aloha Program—a chance to meet bottlenose dolphins up close. Each package accommodates groups a minimum of 10 and maximum of 30 guests, with kamaʻāina and military discounts available. Planning more visits? Consider the Manō Annual Pass, which includes free parking and a range of 10%–30% off select experiences, food and retail merchandise. From keiki to kūpuna, every visit to Sea Life Park is a celebration of ʻohana, ocean wonder, and unforgettable moments. 56 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025
family reunion, graduation, or any other special occasion, Wet ‘n Wild caters to all types of group celebrations and events and can provide the flexibility to help you create your own perfect party. Visit wetnwildhawaii.com for more information. 58 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 WET N WILD Celebrations are meant to be fun, and with Wet ‘n Wild’s group packages, you can relax and enjoy your day at the water park as everything is taken care of! Whether it’s for a birthday, anniversary,
62 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 As parents, we believe our children should follow our rules, regardless of the circumstances. We give them consequences when they don’t abide by our rules. Often, we reach our limits and react out of frustration. Harsh verbal discipline, giving negative attention, delayed consequences, physical threats, or unrelated consequences may result in by Karen K.C. Gibson
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the consequence if there’s a significant time gap between their behavior and the disciplinary action. If children are asked to clean their room and refuse to follow through, waiting a day to administer a consequence reduces the chances of completing the assigned task. They lose motivation to cooperate when they realize there’s no immediate consequence. Specific deadlines and expectations will prevent miscommunication. Strong-willed children may sound argumentative, but they possess a strong need to understand why they receive consequences. Instead of saying they need to mental meltdowns for both parent and child. Some children are naturally born pleasers. They crave acceptance and fear disapproval. Strongwilled children, however, may be perceived as difficult, stubborn, and argumentative. These children may be rebellious when all they crave is to be heard, understood, and never judged. They speak their mind, which is often mistaken for being disrespectful. Misunderstood or Misjudged? According to the Child Mind Institute, children are less likely to understand the connection between their misbehavior and 64 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 A calm-down space helps children regulate their emotions in a healthy, constructive way. “If they actively participate in choosing the consequences, they may gain a better understanding of their choices.”
66 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 frustration. Tempers flare, and frustrated parents often take away electronic privileges for a month or more. Writing down an agreement, along with its consequences, may help prevent behavioral issues. If a strong-willed child hears, “If you don’t finish your tasks of making the bed, putting away clean clothes, and putting your dirty laundry in the hamper by 5 pm today, your weekend movie plans will be canceled,” they will understand the expectations and be clear about the consequences. If they actively be punished for poor behavior, explain expectations. They will be less likely to resist because of frustration if they understand the rules. Blurred rules cause confusion in strongwilled children. Confusion often leads to temper tantrums. Why Immediate Consequences are more Effective “I didn’t know you meant to clean my room today,” or “You didn’t say how much of my room needs to be cleaned” are possible excuses that will lead to parental When kids push back, it isn’t always defiance. Sometimes, it’s a signal they’re overwhelmed or unsure about what’s expected. “When children understand that it’s normal to be upset, and increase their EQ skills, they learn effective ways to process their feelings in healthy ways.”
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adulthood may be surprised when their child transforms into a creative entrepreneur exceeding their expectations. When temper tantrums explode, remember to deep breathe and remember that strong-willed children thrive when they influence their environment and make their own decisions. Offer options instead of demanding a task’s deadline. “Would you like to brush your teeth at 7 pm or 7:30 pm?” gives them a choice rather than making them feel they must comply with demands. Peacemaking Strategies for Siblings Here are some ideas for creative peacemaking strategies instead of demanding apologies if siblings are arguing and tempers are escalating: participate in choosing the consequences, they may experience stronger feelings of ownership while learning self-regulation and gaining a better understanding of their choices. Through active participation in the process, children learn to associate their decisions with their outcomes, leading to improved behavioral patterns. This reduces your child feeling humiliated and feeling that their consequence doesn’t fit the crime. Stubborn or Successful: The LongTerm View Keep in mind that stubborn children may evolve into high-achieving adults who successfully climb the corporate ladder. Parents who question whether their obstinate child may struggle navigating 68 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 Instead of forced apologies, try playful connection. Sibling peacemaking can be silly and surprisingly effective. “Stubborn behavior may be signs of leadership skills, assertiveness, and critical thinking.”
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3. Dedicate 15 minutes where they can express their feelings without judgment or lectures about what triggered their outburst. Ask them how they can handle future anger situations without losing their temper. Brainstorming ideas automatically melts away anger. 4. Develop a relaxation chart that shows methods for achieving calmness. This offers different calming techniques, such as counting to ten or selecting a preferred scented lotion, before giving themselves a foot and hand massage. A fun creative option is participating in a favorite activity like puzzles or finger painting. New calming methods can be added to the chart whenever children think of different relaxation ideas. The Hidden Gifts of Strong Willed Children Most parents fail to realize the hidden gift of their strong-willed child. Stubborn behavior may be signs of leadership skills, assertiveness, and critical thinking. While raising children who are quick to anger can be challenging, they can be the best teachers for parents, teaching patience and compassion. When you feel frustrated with endless “why” questions, take a deep breath, and envision your child’s passionate curiosity leading to creative discoveries. 70 HAWAII PARENT July/August 2025 1. Set a timer for 1 minute, and request siblings to smile and hug each other. 2. Standing nose to nose with a sibling for 2 minutes changes their mood because of the silliness of an unusual interaction. 3. After taking 3 deep breaths, each sibling sits crossing their legs while sitting with their knees touching. Ask them to share a positive trait about their sibling. 4. Moods can change when environments change. Set a timer for 10 minutes and request siblings to run around the yard or each room of the house. 5. Choose a fun book and each sibling takes turns reading a page for 10 minutes. The key to guiding strong-willed siblings from boiling with anger to simmering with peace is to teach them the importance of emotional regulation. When children understand that it’s normal to be upset, and increase their EQ skills, they learn effective ways to process their feelings in healthy ways. Teaching empathy by having each child put themselves in their sibling’s shoes offers insight on building better relationships, managing overwhelm, and preparing them for the real world as adults. Encourage Reflection, Not Rejection Instead of enforcing time-outs as a punishment, here are options that offer reflection time. Parents may feel time-outs need to be a negative consequence, but reflection time offers children an outlet to diffuse their anger. 1. Read a fun book or watch a show then share their favorite scenes. 2. Create a calm-down area where they listen to calming music while practicing deep breathing and expressing their feelings through drawing. Scribbling with crayons and ripping their paper afterwards helps process their anger. Karen K.C. Gibson, founder of “Letting Go with Aloha,” is a parent coach and author of One Hundred Parenting Tips Inspired by the Pandemic, Mama’s Gotta Let Go, and 365 Parenting Affirmations and Quotes. She also runs Brain Builders, a tutoring service since 1999, and coauthored The Power to Rise Above. Learn more at karenthebrainbuilder.com and lettinggowithaloha.com. “Strong-willed children aren’t difficult, they’re determined. With empathy and creativity, we’re building tomorrow’s leaders.”
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